Today's relationships between men and women is as weak as ever. Men have the general idea that every woman is she's a money hungry bitch or a hoe. On the flip side women view of men is that's we are all dogs and can never be trusted. It saddens me that this is the case cause I can remember when this wasn't even remotely the case. The funny thing about all of it is the fingers get pointed as for who's fault it is. For me I'm neutral, it's almost a chicken vs egg situation. Dare I dig in a little? Come on you know I'm going to.

My only way to do this is to compare the old to the new. When a young Tony was growing up men cheated on women a lil less than today. The difference was women would stomach it for the sake of the kids, for the state of family. Salomon had a gang of wives and I'm sure that was a passed down tradition before him. Does it make it OK? Not all, but I said that to say this... It's in a males nature to have a healthy appetite for women. For a while women evolved to counter that appetite by being every woman to her mate. What I feel is that is women started to attach themselves to male traits in the quest to be treated equal. Women lost the interest to be superwoman. Women stopped sweeping dad's cheating under the rug cause shes too busy in her quest of equality. Mom also is seeking what daddy stopped giving her at home as well. What takes place is little man sees his daddy getting it all over town so he assumes that's the OK thing to do. Not only that lil momma see daddy doing his thang also the music that's promoting cheating and sees that as the way to live. Niggas then become "not shit". Lil misses you're right we aren't but who's fault is that though? My thing is this the tit for tat has created a wall between the sexes. Men don't wanna do better cause the attitude of the new school woman. Women don't want to give a dog a chance to learn tricks cause she doesn't want to be bitten. We are at a impasse how can it be fixed? I have no idea. We both are the problem not just men, not just women. We've lost so much value in one another it's sickening. Our value to each other is "niggas aint shit" and "money over bitches". All I can say is wow. For me it defeats the purpose we might as well be like other animals and just have sex for pro creation purposes only. With both of us having our own problems I ask women "Why do you hate me?" when we both are as guilty? Or is my perception skewed?

I'm sure you're looking at the title and like WTF kind of title is that? Sit back and you'll see folks. I ask do you have what it takes, do you have what it takes turn love into a successful relationship? Most people think love is all you need to be happy, those people are stupid if you ask me. To have something real takes both parties being realistic. When I say be realistic I mean step out of your fantasy world and say hey we live in a real world let's take it head on together. First things first we need to realize we live in a "what have you done for me lately" society. That means it's not bout what you did it's bout what you do. What you won't do someone else will and more than likely better. Fellas you're woman need to know she's the most beautiful and the best woman ever. If you have to force that then you don't feel it and more than likely not her either. Ladies we are men make us feel that way. Give a lil submission will get you a long way trust me. We live in a society where cheating is becoming more and more normal. I'm not a fan of it but I understand. Men cheat typically for lack of variety. Men don't like life to get to predictable and normal. We like spice in our life no matter how little. We cheat more so with our dicks and not with our hearts. Sorry fellas but all men are dogs we just need a master to treat us good, feed us right both literally and figuratively, and let us hump when we in heat. If a dog gets that ladies he'll never leave the yard. Ladies y'all cheat with y'all heart. Y'all step out most of the time cause ya man ain't emotionally there. With that being said fellas be in her heart as much as you're between her legs.
We're in a day where women work as hard as men. In a successful roles need to be understood. Yes damn it I said I let me explain. Part of what makes a man feel like a man is bringing home the bacon, well in today's world man and woman bring both bring in the paper. That creates a power struggle. Both parties gonna feel they work the hardest and wants the other to cater to them. Why not cater to one another. Take turns cooking or share the task together. Fellas some women actually like to cook but don't want to feel like a slave a simple thawing seasoning goes a long way. It may be a time both of y'all ain't feeling like cooking. Before y'all bug out on one another how bout y'all go out to eat. How bout you take her to he place y'all ate on your first date? Decision making is another big issue. Compromise people just do it. It's OK to submit a lil on both sides. Last but not least really know who you're dealing with. Ladies you know if you have a man women go crazy over but do you really know how he'll respond to the attention. Trust is built on knowledge. Know your partner and you'll know where his or her head is always is at. Don't be afraid to talk and talk honestly. Well I'm going to get back to my late night y'all be easy but before I go I question do you have what it takes? Do you have what it takes to be the man/woman your mate needs, wants, and wish for?


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Women always say men are so confusing and don't know what we want. I cant buy that, maybe a boy doesn't know what he wants but a man knows. Every woman I've ever considered being with have received what i call the blueprint to my heart. This may or may not pertain to all men but i can only speak for me. I'm a simple man that want a happy and simple life. Spouse or no spouse I'll have it. All i really want is a woman that's bout her man, a woman that wants to be queen. Just that simple. I know what you're wondering what the hell does he mean? I'm a man that spoils my woman whatever she wants she gets emotionally, sexually, or financially. I'm gonna make everyday with me happy and make yo feel like a queen. I just want the same that's it. Looks are great but not a big deal. The best way to put it is if you get me to like you and want to be with you, you're good to go. Now I'm not gonna give the entire jest of what i want cause I'll just have a gang of females just telling me what I wanna hear. I'm a king where the hell is my queen?

I'm on the couch just thinking of all the women I've encountered in my days and something came to mind. Why is it the normal guy gets no love from the ladies? The average woman is attracted to "bad boy/thug", or the "I'm too sexy for my shirt guy". What's with that? Like why would any woman want a bad boy? Last I checked a bad boy does bad things in life and that doesn't excludes relationships. Like I see allure but it's stupid if you ask me. Now what about the too that thinks he's more beautiful than the women. Nigga get that punk shit outta here. Ladies why would you want that? Women love these kind of guys but what bout a guy like me. I'm a good guy, honest, caring(if ya the misses), hard working, don't live with mommy, and I take care of my kid. The thing is I'm usually looked at like a lame once I express that's who I am. Like I get their attention with my looks and shit goes south. I'm a nerdy ass nigga that's no military secret. I will say the nerds are starting to get a lil love I don't know why but it's happening. My thing is this who's the lame one really?


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So this blog is mainly for the ladies (fellas I got some real shit for yall coming up). As the title states what's a good man? I wanna try to describe him and I want yall to tell me if I'm off. A good man is a man that has backed you up from day one no matter what it was. He works all day sometimes night and when the check comes give it straight to you to take care of the house y'all built. You never have to ask him to give ya nothing cause he already got it for ya doesn't matter if you want it or need it. He may hit he streets with the boys but he's checking in on the text just so you know you're the only woman he wants. A man that loves your family like its his, and if you already have a child treating it like he helped make it anyway. A man that makes you laugh and smile on a daily with small things even when you've had a huge shitty day. A man that makes chicken noodle soup for you from scratch for you when you're sick. He holds you at night so you can sleep well. A man that will give you the shirt of his back if ya cold. Or takes ya out of town for the hell of it. A man that still finds a way to make u blush daily. the words. A man that uses I love you as part of his daily vocabulary and makes sure you know that's the feeling is true. All that emotional stuff is cool and all but what if this man knows your body to the core and knows what to do to do and when to do it to send you in orbit. Now ladies (hell fellas yall can answer too) is that a good man? What makes a good man?

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